Glamour bondage by Uncle M

While we are on the topic of safety, I would like to give a list of pointers for any model, submissive, dominant, and/or blind dater. Mom always said certain things to me when I was a child: “Never talk to strangers”, “Don’t get in a car with strangers”, “Don’t take candy from strangers”, little things like that. What we fail to do, for the most part, is to take that into our adult lives. I’ve learn a lot, mostly from my own trial and error, what to do and what not to do when it comes to meeting anyone. Especially where the internet is concerned. As a single female in my early twenties, I am at high risk for abduction, rape, assault, and other highly dangerous situations. The following is a list of tips I have for everyone, not just models.

1. Know who you are play with or working for. It is acceptable to ask for i.d. In some cases, you can even request a photocopy to be faxed to you. With Uncle M and I, you do not need to see his i.d. You may see mine and I will happily provide a photocopy for you. Usually by that point the model will know who Uncle M is and will get to know him, so such precautions are not needed.

2. Inform a friend of where you will be and who you are with. In a sealed envelope, place that photocopy and the address of where you will be, along with any other relevant information. In case of an emergency, instruct that friend to open the envelope and alert the authorities. Yes, alert the authorities. Your safety is first and foremost, so never forget that.

3. Have a safety call in place. Arrange a time in which you will call your friend to assure them that you are safe. If you will be gone for a lengthy period of time, agree to check in every few hours to assure them that you are still safe.

4. Always meet in a public location. Never get in a car with the individual(s). Provide your own transportation or take a cab. You are within your rights to request that they pay for the cab. I suggest the food court at a mall, as there is always people, video cameras, and gender specific washrooms for a safe escape if necessary.

5. Make sure your phone is charged, turned on, and on vibrate. It is rude to have your phone ringing while in a meeting,  so have it on silent or vibrate. It is easier to call for help if it’s on and charged.

6. Never compromise who you are. It took me a while to realize that you should never negotiate or renegotiate who you are, your morals, ethics, and your limits. As a rule of thumb, if it feels wrong, don’t do it. You are your own person, never forget that. If they want you to change who you are and what you tolerate to what they want you to be and what they want you to tolerate, walk away. There is someone for everyone.

Now there is a lot more that can be covered in this, but these are the most important basics to ensure your safety. All of these are things I have learned through my own experiences. Some other notes to take mention of are:

- if you’re meeting from the internet, request a first and last name and a photo before meeting
- never give out your phone number or other personal information
- never tell them where you live
- go home that night. Unless previously discussed to do a “sleep over”, go home the first night. You’re venerable while you are sleeping.
- avoid drinking or doing drugs, as they cloud judgment and put you at risk

If you have more to add, please feel free to do so.